Booklet to help you record your wishes

You’ve got your bucket list, written a will but have you made an end of life care plan?

Talking about dying won’t make it happen but deciding what end of life care you would like in the future helps those close to you make the right choices when the time comes.

This not only respects your values but allows your loved ones the comfort of feeling they are following your wishes.

Anyone can plan for their future care and we all need to talk more openly about dying, death and bereavement.

You may ask yourself what would happen if you become seriously ill or disabled. Would your partner, family or friends know about the kind of care you would like to receive, or where you would like to die? Would they know if you wanted to be resuscitated (helped to start breathing again, if you stop) or if you wanted to refuse any kinds of treatment?

These might not be easy topics, but by thinking about your wishes, discussing them with your loved ones and writing them down in a document, you could be saving them from making difficult decisions on their own later on.

St Luke’s Hospice in Basildon has developed an end of life care toolkit in consultation with Thurrock Lifestyle Solutions.

The When I Die toolkit is in the format of a booklet which can be used by anyone to plan their own end of life care or to help a loved one make a plan.

There are two versions of the booklet – one to help people with dementia and another to help people with learning disabilities. Both versions have pictures and symbols to help understanding.

There and spaces in the booklet which can be filled in to record wishes such as:

  • where you would like to be cared for if you can no longer be cared for at home
  • contact details for your relatives and close friends
  • your funeral wishes

The booklet can be signed each time it is updated and should kept in a safe place known to your loved ones.

Download the When I Die booklet - Dementia  here

Download the When I Die booklet - Learning Disabilities here

If you have any questions about the booklets or need advice in filling them in, please email This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it., Compassionate Communities Development Worker at St Luke’s Hospice.